A Letter to my Younger Self

A Letter to my Younger Self

Wow, it’s been a long time since my last blog post. Life happens, but I hope to start posting again more consistently. As I see many of my friends posting and celebrating high school and college graduations, it gave me pause to think, “What would I say to my younger self?” Well, I’ve thought of a few things to share. My hope is you can laugh, relate to some of what I’m saying, but most of all, I hope it may encourage someone that may be young and just embarking on their life’s journey. With that, let’s get into it.

            Dear Farcett,

You are so much more than you know and give yourself credit for. I want to give you some advice as you try to navigate this thing called “life.” First, be happy with the career you have chosen. Many people will say you won’t make much money, but remember why you went into education. You wanted to make a difference in young people’s lives and now at the tender age of 34 (LOL), you’re one step closer to fulfilling your desired career path. You will teach elementary students for 9 years, you will then go on to advise high school students in their college pursuits for 4 years and currently you will choose to work with a university in the admissions department. All because you made the choice for a career and not to settle just to fit in a certain tax bracket. Hold your head up high, you did well.

            Secondly, girl do NOT, for one second, allow anyone or anything to get you down about dating. You are not defined by your relationship status. Let’s be honest for a minute: there are far too many people in these “situation-ships” and you only get a snippet of what is portrayed online. Celebrate who you are and who you are becoming! Like the song says, “On my momma, on my hood, I look fly, I look good!” Now, to keep it ALL the way real……you’re going to date some bustas! I’m not talking about a dude who isn’t the best fit for you. I’m talking about some fool who you know you can’t take home to your parents’ because he looks a hot mess! That’s just your bad boy phase, don’t worry…you’ll grow out of it. You will make poor choices when you date & it’s gonna hurt. So go ahead and grab a pint of cookies-n-cream ice cream, listen to Mary J. Blige’s “Not Gon Cry” and call up your best friend talking about dudes aint (fill in the blank!) BAHAHAHA! After you get over it, you will face your single season. Don’t call a number on the infomercial because they have not found your long, lost soul mate! This is also not the time to become a straight up hoochie! Go on a few vacations, explore your natural hair journey, become active in a ministry at church, etc. If all else fails, repeat after me: “My lip gloss is popping, my lip gloss is cool.” (if you can’t imagine me saying this, we can’t be friends) For real, keep being you. Keep doing the best you can and he (that cute guy, with the Jordan’s that match his outfit, the one with the handsome face), will find you.

            Lastly, love yourself. Love your physical flaws. There will always be someone who is better looking than you, smarter than you, taller than you. Side note: she won’t be the bomb-diggity like you though. :) Be intentional with your time and loving others than acquiring material wealth, you’ll be so much happier. Oh yes! Don’t fall for the social media hype of loving yourself by using all these filters. Filters are out here breaking up happy homes!! You get down because someone made themselves look like a celebrity when in reality they look like something from “Tales from the Crypt!” This verse is always a good go to—Psalm 139:14: "I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.”  To end, don’t regret where you are or the steps you took to get there. You’ll look up and 10 years will have passed and you will be a sweet, kind, bubbly, caring woman with a good head on her shoulders. (unless Fuhcett comes out & she’s slightly crazy) hehe

Sincerely,

Me #TheWomanYouGrowUpToBecome#SheIsPrettyAwesome

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